"Grampa, what was war like?"
The mint I was eating was cool on my tongue and reminded me of candy canes. The tent was quiet and as I stared straight ahead, sitting at the edge of my bed, I left the present for a memory.
I was 7 years old. It was Christmastime and the snow covered everything in the little Massachusetts town where my grandparents lived: the rooftops of the old farmhouses and barns, the gray rocks of the stone walls, the fading slope of the backyard to the tree line, even the tops of the dark slate graves in the old cemetery and the swing set in the neighbor's yard. The seats of the swings, full of snow, hung still, dormant, lifeless in the frozen calm. From the fattest branch to the thinnest sliver, the snow covered the ancient maple trees that lined the road along the stone wall. They towered over the icy street like wise men, gnarled with the weight of their wisdom. The sky was bright and clear and blue and, when you inhaled, the crisp air would chill your throat; your breath then returning to the world in a puff of steam, fading into the air as if it were never yours at all.
Inside it was warm and the woodstove popped and crackled, my grandfather having just added fresh logs. The heavy iron door swung closed with a squeak and a clunk. In the corner of the room the Christmas tree twinkled like a universe unto itself, the ornaments different from ours at home, their origins mysterious. The wrapping paper pieces lay crumpled in greens, golds, and reds on the floor. My grandmother gathered them up now. A few she pressed and flattened out on the coffee table, salvaging them for next year. Those too torn were going into a black trash bag in the center of the room.
The adults were sitting on couches and in chairs along the walls of the room, drinking coffee and speaking of things which held little, if any, interest to a boy. The new pajamas, sweaters, and socks were stacked now, on the floor by the tree. The sweet smell of a holiday dinner cooking was beginning to waft through the air, mixing with the pine and the faint smell of smoke from the fire in the woodstove. The day wrapped around you like a blanket, warm and safe.
I had moved into a different room, away from all the others. On the floor, in the center of the room, I sat, my legs in the shape of an M. The colored plastic airstrip and landscape was laid out, the plastic men, tanks, and planes divided -- green on one side and gray on the other. I held a plastic airplane in each hand, the green one with a star and stripe sticker on each wing and the gray one with a black cross. They chased each other through the air above the plastic battlefield turning and diving.
"Ta-ta-ta-ta-ta, Ta-ta-ta-ta-ta! Vroooooom!"
The gray one dove, spiraling and crashed into the carpet, "Capooooosh!"
The green one climbed and turned, "Vrooooooom!" coming around in a wide arc and touching down on the plastic landing strip, coasting to a stop.
"You like that one?" my grandfather asked from behind me.
I turned to see him standing in the doorway, a glass of water in his hand. I could hear the ice tinkling against the sides of the glass as he stood there smiling down at me. I smiled back and nodded, turning back to my new toys. He stepped into the room and sat down at the edge of the couch near where I was playing, set his glass on a side table, and bent forward toward the floor, picking up the two planes.
"You see this green one, those were ours," he said, and pointed to the little sticker. "Now this other one, with the cross here, those were the bad guys, the Germans."
I looked over all of the other plastic men and tanks I had divided on the plastic landscape and looked back up to my grandfather as he sat there leaning over me, smiling.
"Grampa, what was war like?" I asked, looking up at him.
"The war?" he replied, almost startled, his smile fading like the steam of our breath outside. "Well," he said, and looked away and then back to me, "You try not to make too many friends."
"How come, Gramp?" I said, confused. "Why wouldn't you want any friends?"
He paused and looked away to the plastic toys and then back to me. "Because you didn't know if they would make it back."
I squinted up at him, half confused, and he stood up and forced a smile, rubbing the top of my head as he passed me on his way over to the big picture window that overlooked the front yard. He stood there staring out into the snow, expressionless, up to the snow covered branches of the giant maple trees.
I turned away from him and moved the green plastic soldiers forward toward the gray ones. "Ta-ta-ta-ta-ta, Ta-ta-ta-ta-ta!"

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It has only been the last few years that my Grandfather has begun speaking about the war, and reconnecting with his buddies.
There are amazing events just under the skin, waiting to be told... or waiting to be lost. Listening to him and the pain he remembers, forgetting some of the details might be for the best. But there was a lot of good in the strangest places, and I'd hate to lose that too.
Posted by: ScottM | February 21, 2007 7:11 PM
Sir, I commend you. My recollections however go to my father. He served in WWII and in Nam in the Navy. He was there at Iwo for the raising of the flag and lost many friends on Iwo. It was hard getting him to say anything about the wars he was in. I have always thought of him as a hero, though he NEVER liked that phrase, in his words he was just a sailor, the heros he said didn't come home at the end of the war.
I served in the US Army from 75 - 83, and I hope that my children and grandchildren will be able to live in a world of peace, if not peace at least safety. Thank you and all the troops on the ground in Iraq and Afghanistan for your service.
Posted by: gwdrake214 | February 22, 2007 9:42 AM
My oldest brother is my grandpa. He is 11 years older than I and served in the 8th AirForce in England and Europe. He brought home the photo packet of the death camps. Those photos told a story that was hard to believe. Most of his stories were benign as he only was under fire a couple of times. A couple of times in London under the buzz bombs and in Europe during the last German air raid on Allied airfields.
The US torture photos will resound in the American mind for a long time but they will resound in the minds of the rest of the world forever.
When the photos went up on the internet my thoughs were: We just lost this war!!
Posted by: DILBERT DOGBERT | February 22, 2007 8:45 PM
I'm eternally grateful that my grandchildren have never asked me about Vietnam. Unless the experience is recited as an object lesson, a teaching aid, it's not something I'm comfortable with, although sometimes late at night the spirits of lost friends do visit me.
To add to Dilbert's comment above, I believe history will judge our nation very harshly for our actions in Iraq (and probably Iran).
I'm not proud of what the Army I love is doing; I consider it shameful. Yet I view your actions as most honorable. There can be no greater loyalty to a brother than to help him in his need.
Posted by: Lurch | March 2, 2007 10:02 PM